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Two Things You Can Do... To Make Her Hum... 🔥❤️
Two Things You Can Do... To Make Her Hum... 🔥❤️ You can find a tiny bit of wisdom and a smidgen of irony, in strange places ; you just have keep your eyes and ears open and sometimes, they fall right onto your lap. Take yesterday for instance. As usual, I was driving home and trapped - once again - in snarled traffic. My radio was blaring when I heard these words spoken. "When you fall in love, you fall in love with that person - in spite of their imperfections." You might think it was a remark from ; a 'love doctor' or an inspirational 'thought for the day'. In fact, it was part of an advertisement for - of all things - a store selling appliances, that are slightly dinged or scratched. What a captivating by-line to push a product. The announcer also promised ; more than fifty percent off, with a guaranteed 'great deal'. Ironically - back in the day - my spouse and I went to THAT store and bought a huge side by side fridge. When we first examined that stainless steel behemoth and all its (supposed) imperfections we accepted it, fell in love with it and brought it home. It had a few scratches and a small dent, but that ice box was a beast. She still IS a beast. I own it to this very day! It's a sombre paradox that my wife and I could live contently, with an imperfect gadget, but we couldn't - live with each other's nicks and dents. Our union... eventually dissolved. My old fridge? She can still fricken flash freeze burning magnesium - in five seconds! Sure... every once in a while the motor buzzes a bit. I nudge her on the side or jiggle her a touch and - she continues to hum. If it were only that easy, right ? I didn't think about it back then, but perhaps a nudge here and a jiggle there... might have saved a marriage. Nah... I don't think so. ......................................... . .. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O |
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Is 'love', all about accepting your partner with all their imperfections or is that just a myth? 🤔 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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If life were as easy as giving things a kick, to stop the irritation. 😊 I know... I know... Husbands and wives should never kick each other. But I look at that damn fridge... and it doesn't seem to have minded a boot - from a pair of cushioned slippers once in a while. lol 😂 OMG 😮❤️🌹 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Interesting way to look at relationships... And it makes a lot of sense!!!
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We all have imperfections, and acceptance of another's imperfections, well to me, sometimes their imperfections are the endearing qualities about them IF they later turn to annoyances, perhaps rather than a kick or two, a gentle nudge might work.
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Hmm kicked to the curb only to fall face first into a snowcock (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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3/3/2020 11:55 am |
I guess no one going to find the perfect mate. So there things you going to accept and things you won't!
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What a great read, so glad you still own your fridge, and you know paying attention to the little things in a relationship is what keeps it strong and will definitely keep her humming too..Communication is also the key to a long lasting marriage as well. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day..
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Yes and yes. Maybe not a full fledged real kick but a nudge in right direction. If there is love there the other will willingly accept and understand why it was given. Constructive criticism is a good thing for a marriage. Communication is key. Some people actually need the occasional nudge whether it’s just a case of temporary self absorption or just plain ignorance of what they are doing. Humans have a way to justify their wrongs to themselves without thinking of the consequences. A little nudge puts them back in perspective and opens door for whatever is needed to rectify. True love can withstand a whole lot more than you think. I am a sucker for scratch and dent deals. My refrigerator needs a little nudge every once in awhile too. 🙃
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You have me thinking about some things now
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Interesting. Many people recognize the imperfections in their partner and marry them in an attempt to change them and then all hell breaks loose when the person can't or won't change. The imperfections we once thought were cute quirks become annoying irritations and then unacceptable behaviors and traits as couples separate and divorce. Never ignore those who care for you you will have lost diamonds while you were collecting stones
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I use to nudge my husband, with my foot, to get him to roll over in bed and stop snoring. Kinda the same thing. Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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Is 'love', all about accepting your partner with all their imperfections or is that just a myth? .... That's a huge romanticized fairytale myth. First of all, people don't fall in love, they become infatuated. And after the infatuation wears off, the flaws become obvious. A persons friends or family members may have tried to open their eyes to the flaws, nicks, scrapes, but he/she wouldn't hear of it, couldn't see it. You are familiar with that stupid song, "When a man loves a woman"? Yeah ... well , the song is really about being infatuated. Being infatuated is like being drugged, being totally irrational, out of it. - If life were as easy as giving things a kick, to stop the irritation. .... And that would absolutely stop the annoyance? Then , yes, people would be doing that a lot.
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Those imperfections , thought of as endearing? At the moment they annoy the shit out of your friends and family,, and later, they sometimes begin to annoy the shit out of you , too.... when you come out of your mind-fog. This desire to find one and only mate , is really irrational when you consider the population of the planet, ease of travel, how many people you might run into any day of the week just by going to the store...and how close we all have become technologically.
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Interesting way to look at relationships... And it makes a lot of sense!!! ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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We all have imperfections, and acceptance of another's imperfections, well to me, sometimes their imperfections are the endearing qualities about them IF they later turn to annoyances, perhaps rather than a kick or two, a gentle nudge might work. Add up all those little annoyances and well... Some people recover and others? 😶 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Hmm kicked to the curb only to fall face first into a snowcock But he seems to be happy. Can you make out his smile? 🤔 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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I guess no one going to find the perfect mate. So there things you going to accept and things you won't! ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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What a great read, so glad you still own your fridge, and you know paying attention to the little things in a relationship is what keeps it strong and will definitely keep her humming too..Communication is also the key to a long lasting marriage as well. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day.. What's your secret? 🤔 🍷🍷😎 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Yes and yes. Maybe not a full fledged real kick but a nudge in right direction. If there is love there the other will willingly accept and understand why it was given. Constructive criticism is a good thing for a marriage. Communication is key. Some people actually need the occasional nudge whether it’s just a case of temporary self absorption or just plain ignorance of what they are doing. Humans have a way to justify their wrongs to themselves without thinking of the consequences. A little nudge puts them back in perspective and opens door for whatever is needed to rectify. True love can withstand a whole lot more than you think. I am a sucker for scratch and dent deals. My refrigerator needs a little nudge every once in awhile too. 🙃 True, about communication. Well... you're a couple... I heard the words 'true love'... is that your ace? Gotta love a dent... that takes 50% off, something brand new. Hey... drop by any time. 👍 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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You have me thinking about some things now I hope you resolve your thoughts and report back. 😶 👍🍷🍷😎 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Interesting. Many people recognize the imperfections in their partner and marry them in an attempt to change them and then all hell breaks loose when the person can't or won't change. The imperfections we once thought were cute quirks become annoying irritations and then unacceptable behaviors and traits as couples separate and divorce. But... in spite of annoying traits, what ticked me... was the way their thoughts and vision didn't match mine. I really didn't mind all the small stuff... Good points. You sound balanced... lol 😂 Are you? 🤔 😎🍷🍷 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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I use to nudge my husband, with my foot, to get him to roll over in bed and stop snoring. Kinda the same thing. You were lucky... snoring was his only foible. Do you harbour other tips? 🤔 🍷🍷 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Is 'love', all about accepting your partner with all their imperfections or is that just a myth? .... That's a huge romanticized fairytale myth. First of all, people don't fall in love, they become infatuated. And after the infatuation wears off, the flaws become obvious. A persons friends or family members may have tried to open their eyes to the flaws, nicks, scrapes, but he/she wouldn't hear of it, couldn't see it. You are familiar with that stupid song, "When a man loves a woman"? Yeah ... well , the song is really about being infatuated. Being infatuated is like being drugged, being totally irrational, out of it. - If life were as easy as giving things a kick, to stop the irritation. .... And that would absolutely stop the annoyance? Then , yes, people would be doing that a lot. But I'm sure... fairy tales exist? 🤔 Notwithstanding the lyrics... it's not a bad... song. Have you ever been infatuated? ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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When I have a hard time accepting my own imperfections.... How can I believe anyone else would either?
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Those imperfections , thought of as endearing? At the moment they annoy the shit out of your friends and family,, and later, they sometimes begin to annoy the shit out of you , too.... when you come out of your mind-fog. This desire to find one and only mate , is really irrational when you consider the population of the planet, ease of travel, how many people you might run into any day of the week just by going to the store...and how close we all have become technologically. I don't know about you, but I could live with that. What I can't live with, is someone who doesn't think like me. Not agree... with me. But THINK... like me. Intelligence and empathy can go a long way. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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When I have a hard time accepting my own imperfections.... How can I believe anyone else would either? Ever thought of letting it go? 🤔 🍷🍷😎 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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3/3/2020 8:17 pm |
Interesting comparison. I never had a problem with her imperfections, but let me serve ice to another woman or freeze another woman's rump roast and I'm left out on the curb! Sheesh!
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Interesting comparison. I never had a problem with her imperfections, but let me serve ice to another woman or freeze another woman's rump roast and I'm left out on the curb! Sheesh! Should I even ask what that - 'freezing a rump roast' - thingy is all about? 🤔 Yep... I hear you. 😶 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Before you can accept someone else's 'imperfections', you have to acknowledge your own. Love this quote from Marilyn Monroe: 'Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.' [image]
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Before you can accept someone else's 'imperfections', you have to acknowledge your own. Love this quote from Marilyn Monroe: 'Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.' [image] I wonder if I'll remember these words... when they should count. How do you fair when using them? 🤔 Marilyn was a classic, wasn't she! 👍 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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It would take a 'Poco', right? 😮 lol 😂 I think I might be a touch guilty of looking for perfection, when in fact I should be accepting people more - for who they are. How do you do in those situations? 🤔 I have a feeling... you're a straight shooter with everyone you meet. 🍷🍷❗😎 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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It's all good! 😊 👍 It's been years and... I mean... regardless of how frosty my ex got - she was never able to freeze an ice cube tray. 🍷🍷😎 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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I measure other people's imperfections against mine and damn... I'm always coming up on top. 😮 My tolerance? 🤔 It's right up there. Except... no vegans. Ya gotta draw the line SOMEWHERE! 👍 🍷🍷😎❗ ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Amazingly, I agree with Heathen. I think a lot of what people think is "love" is sexual infatuation. I heard an interesting thread on Dan Savage's podcast where his guest speaker said that studies have shown that women are the gender most likely to become sexually bored, and that it usually happens after 2-4 years. No it's not a loss of libido, they're bored with their partner. The following week, one of his callers said that her solution was not to live with her partner. By eliminating having to deal with the daily annoyances of someone else's "quirks", she manages to keep the flame alive. I suspect that would probably be a good solution for me (especially since I have my own flaws that would drive someone else crazy). Or, the couple can be grown-ups, try to talk through the things that annoy each other and arrive at compromises/solutions. Ugh that's so hard though!
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Amazingly, I agree with Heathen. I think a lot of what people think is "love" is sexual infatuation. I heard an interesting thread on Dan Savage's podcast where his guest speaker said that studies have shown that women are the gender most likely to become sexually bored, and that it usually happens after 2-4 years. No it's not a loss of libido, they're bored with their partner. The following week, one of his callers said that her solution was not to live with her partner. By eliminating having to deal with the daily annoyances of someone else's "quirks", she manages to keep the flame alive. I suspect that would probably be a good solution for me (especially since I have my own flaws that would drive someone else crazy). Or, the couple can be grown-ups, try to talk through the things that annoy each other and arrive at compromises/solutions. Ugh that's so hard though! I think much of THIS group of commenters (given their age), is so entrenched in their habits and foibles and idiosyncrasies, that love - is probably just an unattainable illusion. I can live with someone's habits (however weird they are), but the fundamentals for curiosity and exploration and frivolity - have to be there. You're not finding that out till - 2 to 4 years down the road. Not surprising. hmmm... 🤔 Yeah... but isn't some of the fun, in other rooms besides the bedroom? You know what I mean. So... points to Heathen. 👍 I know that the mind is a powerful organ and if it looks hard enough for something (in someone else), it'll find it. Can we be happy with that? Some are... So WHAT (habits) exactly, would drive me crazy 🤪? 🍷🍷😎❗ i can think of a few... 🌹 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Wise words. Are you a therapist? lol 😂 True, about communication. Well... you're a couple... I heard the words 'true love'... is that your ace? Gotta love a dent... that takes 50% off, something brand new. Hey... drop by any time. 👍
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I agree with you that people in our age group tend to be a bit set in our ways and our quirks are ingrained! I've been living by myself for fifteen years, it's probably hopeless. What are my quirks? Maybe a topic for a blog post...
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I agree with you that people in our age group tend to be a bit set in our ways and our quirks are ingrained! I've been living by myself for fifteen years, it's probably hopeless. What are my quirks? Maybe a topic for a blog post... but people can change. I used to be exclusive... on the left side of the bed. Now? I'm ambi-bedtrix. Either side. 😁 Baby steps. Do you laugh a lot? That's a game changer for me. I won't mind if you fart, but if you don't laugh at my quips? 🤔 OMG... Yep... when's that topic coming? Oh and.. I like that mitten. I think it's about laughter. Really... ❗😎🍷🍷💕 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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No I’m not a therapist but I’ve been married to the same man for a quarter of a century + now. We all have our ups and downs but IF you really want to keep the love of your life by your side then you just HAVE to accept the imperfections as they come on BOTH sides. Nobody is perfect and anyone who claims to be is just missing out on life period. You have to accept YOUR own imperfections and roll with it in order to honestly accept anyone else’s. Don’t forget that. If you and your spouse, lover, friends are all on the same page then nothing is impossible. Love finds a way to forgive and move forward. (Note I don’t say forget cuz what lessons would you have Learned if you did) You have to be positive and happy with yourself to achieve any of this. You have to be positive and happy to support whoever needs that support to get through any scratch and dents that arise. It’s all what you WANT to make of it. Having a true easy going attitude and acceptance of knowing that life throws you lemons helps a whole lot. Just think of ways to make lemonade from it all and throw the empty rines away. Trash days Wednesday and Saturday for us. lots of luck. Hope next round goes much smoother Myself? No regrets about the first round. Gave me two beautiful successful daughters who are managing and succeeding at their lives. I'm at the stage where love - isn't an option. It's more of a luxury. A simple hug with a... ummm. I'm a little more shallow than the idealists I see. And that's all good. Yep... I liked your analysis. It's for those who still harbour patience. Hmmm... lol 😂 But I can still laugh. And THAT'S what's important to me. 😊 🍷🍷❗😎 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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lol 😂 👍 I do... 🍷🍷❗😎 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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... And who doesn't like to be compared to an old fridge. 👍Your nicks wouldn't bother me. 💕 Ya have knicks and dents? 🤔 🔥 💦 Those sculptures require some skill and talent to create... lol 😂 It's all starting to melt here... slowly... 😶😎🍷🍷🌹 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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I like your analogies. Good ones! 👍 😊 Myself? No regrets about the first round. Gave me two beautiful successful daughters who are managing and succeeding at their lives. I'm at the stage where love - isn't an option. It's more of a luxury. A simple hug with a... ummm. I'm a little more shallow than the idealists I see. And that's all good. Yep... I liked your analysis. It's for those who still harbour patience. Hmmm... lol 😂 But I can still laugh. And THAT'S what's important to me. 😊 🍷🍷❗😎
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Touché my friend! Touché. Life is no fun without laughter You've got potential... lol 😂 Cheers 🥂 😎❗ Ever thought of sharing a thought? I'd read it. 😶 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Hey... Set up a 'mail box' on your blog. You've got potential... lol 😂 Cheers 🥂 😎❗ Ever thought of sharing a thought? I'd read it. 😶
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3/5/2020 10:19 pm |
I fell in love with the imperfections- if only he loved mine in return. 😘
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I fell in love with the imperfections- if only he loved mine in return. 😘 Good thing there are plenty of fish out there. 🐠. 🍷🍷😎❗👍 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Your sounding very nostalgic and melancholy in this post.
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Your sounding very nostalgic and melancholy in this post. Most relationships aren't perfect. We all live with each other's little dings... don't we? Or we won't ... and we walk away. 😶 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Well ok.
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I think I heard that same radio show. It was funny.
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I think I heard that same radio show. It was funny. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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i had something to say, but... heck... sometimes it's better to just keep it to yourself. Ya know what I mean? ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Interesting way to look at relationships... And it makes a lot of sense!!! ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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