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Just leaving a comment to get points.....  

secret_lade 49F
14128 posts
1/19/2020 5:07 am
Just leaving a comment to get points.....


Look, I get it.

You're pissed off! Everything on here is changing and you don't want to have to for what you think will be an effortless hookup.

But, here's the thing....

A lot of people on here use their blog as a social outlet, a way to meet new friends, and in a lot of cases, as an emotional outlet to express the secrets they can't reveal in 'real life'.

While I know that we are all guaranteed the right to freedom of speech, how about we not flash that "I'm an uncaring Douche Bag" badge by stating 'I'm only here to get ' and maybe, just maybe, actually read a little of the post and state something worthwhile.

Death in the family? I'd much prefer 'wow, that sucks' to a 3 sentence diatribe on why AdultFriendFinder is fucked and the system blows. Whatever you are trying to make is lost by doing this. You are not bitching to the right people.

One last thing for all you earners there.... There is a limit to how many you can earn. What will be your back up plan when you have met that limit?

secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/18/2020 3:55 am

    Quoting Putzy50:
    Leaving a comment to get points lol
I can see why they call you putzy...


Putzy50 59M

2/17/2020 10:13 pm

Leaving a comment to get points lol


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/17/2020 3:08 pm

    Quoting h4rry66:
    I'm here for pussy not points beautiful, but I can see what you mean. I just want to get laid over and over again. A gang * by a group of women is very appealing to me, but I can't see it ever happening from here I think. Fancy hooking up for a bit of fun?
You're kind of a distance from me, but I appreciate the offer.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/17/2020 3:07 pm

    Quoting CockyChris2007:
    I am here purely for fun, anything else is a bonus.
    I chat in groups, I read some profiles,watch the occasional cam and even on occasions cam myself.
    Life is short.
    Dont worry, be happy!

    P.S. Aint I cute??

Me too!! Some people are just so serious.... There is a commenter on my blog post for yesterday that is out of control. Long paragraphs of her opinion of the rest of us and grocery stores and plastic bags. She's almost hostile.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/17/2020 3:04 pm

    Quoting orgzms4bofus:
    I leave a comment to hopefully have it read ,,not to earn points ,lol what can I get for2 points ?
I'm right there with you.... Besides, I haven't earned points in years. If I wanted them, I'd just buy them.


orgzms4bofus 63M
79 posts
2/17/2020 4:29 am

I leave a comment to hopefully have it read ,,not to earn points ,lol what can I get for2 points ?


CockyChris2007 57M
202 posts
2/17/2020 4:00 am

I am here purely for fun, anything else is a bonus.
I chat in groups, I read some profiles,watch the occasional cam and even on occasions cam myself.
Life is short.
Dont worry, be happy!

P.S. Aint I cute??



h4rry66 57M

2/16/2020 9:37 pm

I'm here for pussy not points beautiful, but I can see what you mean. I just want to get laid over and over again. A gang * by a group of women is very appealing to me, but I can't see it ever happening from here I think. Fancy hooking up for a bit of fun?


JimnnyBoy 26M

2/16/2020 4:04 pm

i read the post and some of the comments and il post something relevenant based on that most of the times.
as for the back up plan? easy enough just make another profile wym


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/15/2020 5:01 pm

    Quoting whiskycat666:
    Ha yes, it's as if they don't really want people to meet...
It's a business to them.... And, they are treating it as such.


whiskycat666 51M  
286 posts
2/15/2020 9:18 am

Ha yes, it's as if they don't really want people to meet...


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/13/2020 6:16 pm

I bet...


Cumming2TheEdge 50M

2/12/2020 3:37 pm

Points well taken.


orangeskittle69 55M

2/11/2020 10:50 pm

agreed


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/11/2020 1:10 pm

    Quoting hillbillone:
    Big -$$$- does not make this online thing real or easy. It is all a crap shoot with them and have tried a few over the years. It is a way for someone to make money and some are shady.
No, it is definitely not easy. Kind of takes the fun out of it....


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/11/2020 1:09 pm

    Quoting funforu111111:
    Comment if you read the blog and have something usefull to say
    points for doing so are a bonus
It would be nice if we could issue points to those that comment!


funforu111111 58M
25 posts
2/11/2020 9:28 am

Comment if you read the blog and have something usefull to say
points for doing so are a bonus


hillbillone 64M
22 posts
2/11/2020 8:19 am

Big -$$$- does not make this online thing real or easy. It is all a crap shoot with them and have tried a few over the years. It is a way for someone to make money and some are shady.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/10/2020 2:38 pm

    Quoting Here4now999:
    my back up plan is to buy points or pay for gold membership.
    thats id and i read blogs infind interestng
I'm glad you read the blogs you find interesting... Even if it isn't my own blog, we like to feel like something we've said is worth reading.


Here4now999 47M

2/10/2020 11:31 am

my back up plan is to buy points or pay for gold membership.
thats id and i read blogs infind interestng


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/9/2020 6:30 pm

    Quoting  :

That is a huge frustration of mine.... appearing online when you are not. It's a guessing game.... Are they avoiding me? Not interested?? Not really online??? I end up thinking the worst.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/8/2020 1:23 pm

    Quoting ThaMahsheen:
    Agreed, but people are going to do what they do. Let them bitch. No one likes complainers. Makes the rest of its look better... lol
Good point! It does make the rest of us look better.


ThaMahsheen 38M
16 posts
2/8/2020 8:38 am

Agreed, but people are going to do what they do. Let them bitch. No one likes complainers. Makes the rest of its look better... lol


4Kixx2 59M

2/6/2020 2:30 am

I’m still trying to redeem my points for a new coffee maker...*shrug*


Want5omefun 42M
9 posts
2/4/2020 11:45 am

Sneaky


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 1:27 am

    Quoting needsumluvn54:
    If I deleted my account and started a new one,can I get a new start on points???
The way this site is set up.... You probably could.


needsumluvn54 65M

1/29/2020 2:38 am

If I deleted my account and started a new one,can I get a new start on points???

needsumluvn


h4rry66 57M

1/28/2020 9:49 pm

While cant people just do what this site is meant for, that being meet and fuck. My cock is always hungry. Have a great day beautiful x


Titnazzman11000 52M
21 posts
1/27/2020 3:38 am

They have changed a lot


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/25/2020 11:52 pm

    Quoting  :

I agree with that 100%. I don't do much chatting on here, so I'm not that worried about points, but I think the points should only be redeemed with a response.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/25/2020 1:20 pm

    Quoting MrBlue5050:
    I did not know you got points for commenting on a blog. I agree that this site has taken away many things that you have to pay for now so it seems like it will survive.
As long as people believe they can get sex from very little effort, this site will survive.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/25/2020 1:18 pm

    Quoting fwblook4unow:
    I guess to bypass the points...is to become a full AdultFriendFinder member.
I've been a gold member off and on over the years... It all depends on how much time you plan to spend on here whether it's worth it or not.


MrBlue5050 62M

1/20/2020 8:07 am

I did not know you got points for commenting on a blog. I agree that this site has taken away many things that you have to pay for now so it seems like it will survive.


fwblook4unow 48M

1/20/2020 7:45 am

I guess to bypass the points...is to become a full AdultFriendFinder member.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 3:05 pm

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    Thanks for sharing this PSA

    Blogging is what has kept me here since 2014

    I like to read and comment on posts, oftentimes, I will share song lyrics

    I don't have or want a huge following

    I understand the dilemma the women are faced with on the site

    a blessing and a curse with the overwhelming ratios of men to women

    from my perspective, I take a "quid-pro-quo" approach, if you read and comment on my posts, I do the same, if not, well, such is life

    that tends to reduce the noise

    and, if there are comments that don't add value, you can always delete and/or block

    I'll leave this one

    Neil Diamond - "Song Sung Blue"

    Song sung blue
    Everybody knows one
    Song sung blue
    Every garden grows one
    Me and you are subject to the blues now and then
    But when you take the blues and make a song
    You sing them out again
    Sing them out again
    Song sung blue
    Weeping like a willow
    Song sung blue
    Sleeping on my pillow
    Funny thing, but you can sing it with a cry in your voice
    And before you know, it get to feeling good
    You simply got no choice
I love Neil Diamond. This song in particular reminds me of this older married couple I happened to see performing in the amphitheater at Mackinaw Crossings 2 summers ago. Toast and Jam, they were called.... while they played other classic rock, you could tell they were Neil Diamond fans all the way....


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
1/19/2020 2:37 pm

Thanks for sharing this PSA

Blogging is what has kept me here since 2014

I like to read and comment on posts, oftentimes, I will share song lyrics

I don't have or want a huge following

I understand the dilemma the women are faced with on the site

a blessing and a curse with the overwhelming ratios of men to women

from my perspective, I take a "quid-pro-quo" approach, if you read and comment on my posts, I do the same, if not, well, such is life

that tends to reduce the noise

and, if there are comments that don't add value, you can always delete and/or block

I'll leave this one

Neil Diamond - "Song Sung Blue"

Song sung blue
Everybody knows one
Song sung blue
Every garden grows one
Me and you are subject to the blues now and then
But when you take the blues and make a song
You sing them out again
Sing them out again
Song sung blue
Weeping like a willow
Song sung blue
Sleeping on my pillow
Funny thing, but you can sing it with a cry in your voice
And before you know, it get to feeling good
You simply got no choice

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Good luck!!!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 11:06 am

    Quoting I_willoralu:
    I haven’t got points for blogs in awhile. Guess I I posted to much already
There is a 100 point max for comments on blogs.... Easy to reach that max.


I_willoralu 49M
1684 posts
1/19/2020 10:16 am

I haven’t got points for blogs in awhile. Guess I I posted to much already

reach me in my blog titled private mail


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 10:01 am

    Quoting  :

There have been times that I've been a paying member, and there are times that I'm not... It all kind of depends on what I'm looking for at that moment. I can't speak for every blogger out there, but I do like reading through my comments, seeing different points of view on subjects, and getting differing opinions on things. There have been times when my eyes were opened to a new point of view.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 9:44 am

    Quoting KX450F2016:
    I tried doing a blog for years. I received extremely little interaction, so I deleted it. I just have one or 2 posts on my current one ( I think). As a paying member I could care less about points, but those who comment just to get points are simply Assholes! At least have something to contribute. Yours is actually the only blog I read! LOL I've been a little busy lately so not on much other than to check that I don't have any messages. Try not to let the wankers get ya down Just be you & delete the haters and spam.
Well, thank you. That was very uplifting. I feel honored that you take the time to read my blog. I don't normally let this stuff get to me, but when I post about a cherished friend passing away, and I get a comment that 'I'm only here for points', it ticks me off.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 9:41 am

    Quoting sgd11334488:
    oh boy is this what this site has been reduced too
Yep


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 9:40 am

    Quoting  :

I like the way you think.... This is my real estate, I may start doing the DELETE and BAN. Thank you for sharing your philosophy.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 9:36 am

    Quoting jemrdy:
    Like the post and the information. I personally have found some blogs that I like to follow for the content not just to get points. Some have some great information and it would be enjoyable to strike up conversation but of course those are the ones that are most followed so their time is limited
There are quite a few really interesting blogs on here.... I follow a few regularly as they always have something that captures my thought or tickles my funny bone.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 9:34 am

    Quoting benard69:
    Never realized you got points for commenting...And then again WHY???
I've been on here far to long to earn points for anything, anymore. I never used them, anyway, so it's kind of a moot point.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 9:32 am

    Quoting jeepsR4fun:
    Points stay for those chessy comments and, AdultFriendFinder is in lets get what we can get mode, Yet We are still here. lol Just being a little nostalgic, Remember when we could talk and post freely???
I do remember those days.... And you are right, we are all still here. Part of me is wondering just how long it will be before we won't be able to blog without points anymore.


KX450F2016 55M
193 posts
1/19/2020 9:29 am

I tried doing a blog for years. I received extremely little interaction, so I deleted it. I just have one or 2 posts on my current one ( I think). As a paying member I could care less about points, but those who comment just to get points are simply Assholes! At least have something to contribute. Yours is actually the only blog I read! LOL I've been a little busy lately so not on much other than to check that I don't have any messages. Try not to let the wankers get ya down Just be you & delete the haters and spam.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 9:19 am

    Quoting jolielaide:
    desperate people do desperate things at the expense of others. however, there are ways to keep it classy; a little thoughtful. unfortunately, this site doesn't necessarily cater to classy.
You are 100% correct... It doesn't necessarily cater to the classy.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 9:18 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    If a person's comments are not on point I just delete them.
I may just start doing that.... I have, on occasion, deleted a few. Messages of hate and negativity really don't need to be seen.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 9:16 am

    Quoting Tallandsmiling53:
    Funny, I read plenty of blogs but only comment on the ones that are relevant or that I feel I have something to offer.....
    Yes, there are plenty of fucktards on AdultFriendFinder
I am very much the same....


Tallandsmiling53 62M
304 posts
1/19/2020 9:02 am

Funny, I read plenty of blogs but only comment on the ones that are relevant or that I feel I have something to offer.....
Yes, there are plenty of fucktards on AdultFriendFinder


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
1/19/2020 7:56 am

If a person's comments are not on point I just delete them.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


jolielaide 52F  
1754 posts
1/19/2020 6:58 am

desperate people do desperate things at the expense of others. however, there are ways to keep it classy; a little thoughtful. unfortunately, this site doesn't necessarily cater to classy.


IVFalternative 52M
630 posts
1/19/2020 6:35 am

    Quoting Blee761:
    I admit, I am a paying customer, thus I could care less about points (even though they can come in handy on occasion).

    As far as members making posts just to get points? Well, those are pretty obvious. I tend to avoid them and seek out the heart-felt blogs.
She is talking about people who leave comments, not people posting their own blogs. It's right in the title dude.

Also there's no reason to quote the whole blog.. imagine what this would look like if every commenter quoted the whole thing like you have. Use some sense. At least the points bloggers know they aren't contributing anything worthwhile.

Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers


jeepsR4fun 57M  
106 posts
1/19/2020 6:32 am

Points stay for those chessy comments and, AdultFriendFinder is in lets get what we can get mode, Yet We are still here. lol Just being a little nostalgic, Remember when we could talk and post freely???


benard69 66M/66F  

1/19/2020 6:30 am

Never realized you got points for commenting...And then again WHY???


jemrdy 59M
112 posts
1/19/2020 6:23 am

Like the post and the information. I personally have found some blogs that I like to follow for the content not just to get points. Some have some great information and it would be enjoyable to strike up conversation but of course those are the ones that are most followed so their time is limited


sgd11334488 60M

1/19/2020 5:52 am

oh boy is this what this site has been reduced too


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:49 am

    Quoting seems6666:
    Yes, it is getting tiresome, I delete them, I don't suppose it takes their points away though
That would be fantastic if you could revoke the points to comments that get removed..... To bad there isn't a suggestion box on here.


seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
1/19/2020 5:47 am

Yes, it is getting tiresome, I delete them, I don't suppose it takes their points away though


Blee761 62M  
519 posts
1/19/2020 5:44 am

    Quoting secret_lade:
    Just leaving a comment to get points.....

    Look, I get it.

    You're pissed off! Everything on here is changing and you don't want to have to pay money for what you think will be an effortless hookup.

    But, here's the thing....

    A lot of people on here use their blog as a social outlet, a way to meet new friends, and in a lot of cases, as an emotional outlet to express the secrets they can't reveal in 'real life'.

    While I know that we are all guaranteed the right to freedom of speech, how about we not flash that "I'm an uncaring Douche Bag" badge by stating 'I'm only here to get points' and maybe, just maybe, actually read a little of the post and state something worthwhile.

    Death in the family? I'd much prefer 'wow, that sucks' to a 3 sentence diatribe on why AdultFriendFinder is fucked and the points system blows. Whatever point you are trying to make is lost by doing this. You are not bitching to the right people.

    One last thing for all you points earners out there.... There is a limit to how many points you can earn. What will be your back up plan when you have met that limit?
I admit, I am a paying customer, thus I could care less about points (even though they can come in handy on occasion).

As far as members making posts just to get points? Well, those are pretty obvious. I tend to avoid them and seek out the heart-felt blogs.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:37 am

    Quoting 62wildwardy:
    yes I agree site was good years ago fakes and scams have taken over and seems they don't address the problem just charge all so less work o there end and hurts those here for real and pleasurable hope dreams and reality that there is good out there
You are right, it was a much better site years ago... But it is what it is now. There are still good, decent people on here, you just have to be patient and allow yourself time to find them.


62wildwardy 61M
76 posts
1/19/2020 5:30 am

yes I agree site was good years ago fakes and scams have taken over and seems they don't address the problem just charge all so less work o there end and hurts those here for real and pleasurable hope dreams and reality that there is good out there


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:29 am

It's good to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:28 am

    Quoting RavenGB:
    Quite.
    The only things on this site worth a candle are (some of) the blogs and some folk in chat. IM never seems to work and there are no peolple close to me here or back at home to make a meet possible.
    The site does provide some interesting stuff for the amateur psychologist though!
I have always been drawn to the blogs.... I've made a few online friends that I communicate with regularly as a result of reading their blog, or them reading mine.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:25 am

    Quoting OurSecret119:
    Great post, and you're right... there does seem to be a lot of "Douche-bagery" going on. I guess we just have to have to take it with a grain of salt.
    ~"The Dude Abides"
Most of the time, I do take it with a grain of salt. There will always be that one person....


lickem2sleep 50M
31 posts
1/19/2020 5:20 am

Yes, that is the case.


OurSecret119 51M

1/19/2020 5:19 am

Great post, and you're right... there does seem to be a lot of "Douche-bagery" going on. I guess we just have to have to take it with a grain of salt.
~"The Dude Abides"


RavenGB 63M
1430 posts
1/19/2020 5:17 am

Quite.
The only things on this site worth a candle are (some of) the blogs and some folk in chat. IM never seems to work and there are no peolple close to me here or back at home to make a meet possible.
The site does provide some interesting stuff for the amateur psychologist though!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:11 am

Just leaving a comment to get points.....

Look, I get it.

You're pissed off! Everything on here is changing and you don't want to have to pay money for what you think will be an effortless hookup.

But, here's the thing....

A lot of people on here use their blog as a social outlet, a way to meet new friends, and in a lot of cases, as an emotional outlet to express the secrets they can't reveal in 'real life'.

While I know that we are all guaranteed the right to freedom of speech, how about we not flash that "I'm an uncaring Douche Bag" badge by stating 'I'm only here to get points' and maybe, just maybe, actually read a little of the post and state something worthwhile.

Death in the family? I'd much prefer 'wow, that sucks' to a 3 sentence diatribe on why AdultFriendFinder is fucked and the points system blows. Whatever point you are trying to make is lost by doing this. You are not bitching to the right people.

One last thing for all you points earners out there.... There is a limit to how many points you can earn. What will be your back up plan when you have met that limit?


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